But alas, the French are also a bit... eccentric. Now, I'm trying to keep this blog rated PG-13 so kids (and mom) look away from the blog :) For whatever reason, I am feeling the need to share so that I'll be called out if I even think about dating the Frenchman again.
It all started last fall/winter. K and I met online and had a quick chat via yahoo and another phone call or two before meeting. Essentially, screening and conversation to make sure he's a suitable guy and not a psychotic nutto. K passed the test. He was smart, responsible, employed, funny, and way cute. And that accent!
He invited me out, and eventually that lead to a dinner date. And dinner was VERY good. And we went out again (drinks, appetizers, dinner & dessert) and had a great time. He's a great cook. It was really fun :)
So I'm thinking. Wow. This might be going somewhere. He's smart, cute, has a job, and he even cooks. And that accent! I'm a happy girl. All is well :)
That is, until he tells me he wants to have a dinner party. Oh no. Not that I don't like parties, but I'm pretty much dinner for 2 kind of girl. I wasn't sure if we were ready for a dinner party. After all, we had just started dating. I wasn't really sure I wanted a dinner party. And. I don't hear from him again. C'est la vie.
But earlier this spring, he called me. Tells me he's been traveling, apologizes for not calling... and he invites me to dinner. Tells me he really wants to see me. Tells me sweet things all accented with ooh la la. But I'm having dinner with A now and tell him so. I like A. Life goes on.
Another couple of months go by and he calls me again. Last Sunday. He invites me over. I think he's thinking we'll have dinner, but I'm thinking that coffee might be better. Decaf. Now, A is out of the picture, and I haven't had really good coffee (or dinner) in a while. Have I mentioned what a good cook he is? But I know if I go over there and have coffee that may lead to dinner and we're back to the dinner party. So my head says no caffine. I hem and haw and basically stall, and reply with "I have plans on tonight." So he asks me out for Friday. Friday is good! I have movie tickets on Friday. Movies are good! I ask if he'd like to join us. Yes! He would! Yea!
On Monday I call him to confirm plans... He doesn't answer and I leave a message, "Call me! :)"
I need girl talk.
My head is reeling with thoughts of coffee, dinner... dinner parties. Excitement of such a handsome guy and dinner. He's such a great guy other than his propensity to have dinner parties. Could I do that? Do I want to? Should I? I mean, I never have, never really been interested. I'm a little curious, I must admit. But am I that curious? What happens if we end up really liking dinner together? Would he always want a dinner party as well? What if it's awful?
L to the rescue!
First of all, she reminds me that it's generally not a good idea to redate. There was a reason you tossed him back. Unless the reason has changed, he needs to keep swimming. DO NOT REDATE. (But I'll definately redate H. We're perfect for each other. Very soon now, he'll realize that...)
And she reminded me of something really key that I need to remember. She said, If you waste your time with a guy that you know isn't right, when the right guy does appear, you won't even notice because you're too occupied with other things. How true is that?!
She also says to be happy with yourself; be happy with your life. When you're happy, that feeling of well being is put into the world and comes back to you. (That explains why whenever I start dating someone new, I all of a sudden hear from a ton of interested guys. When it rains, it pours!)
Sage advice from L. I needed to hear that - I KNOW it's true. I shouldn't waste time with someone who will always want a dinner party. I need to find someone like me.
So, no coffee. No dinner.
OK. Meanwhile, I'm waiting for K to call me back so I can now uninvite him to movies on Friday. Tuesday, no call. Wednesday no call. Thursday. No. Freaking. Call.
Bastard. How rude is that?
He hasn't called. But he will. They ALWAYS come back. Maybe I'm a good cook too!
And for the record, I had a GREAT time at the movies with my friend M, husband, and another music pal too. M and I always end up laughing and giggling a lot. She's so much fun :)
Movies with friends are always a good idea :)
Have fun, relax, be happy. Enjoy your life. See a movie.
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